How Do You Apply The Four Agreements

Thank you, Allan, for shar­ing your wis­dom. I am hon­oured that some­one of your stature would take the time to read my con­tri­bu­tion and clar­i­fy the impor­tance of the agree­ments. It is a fas­ci­nat­ing read when you are inter­est­ed in spir­i­tu­al­i­ty, meta­physics or com­par­a­tive reli­gions. The sys­tem is set up in a very sim­ple way, […]

Thank you, Allan, for shar­ing your wis­dom. I am hon­oured that some­one of your stature would take the time to read my con­tri­bu­tion and clar­i­fy the impor­tance of the agree­ments. It is a fas­ci­nat­ing read when you are inter­est­ed in spir­i­tu­al­i­ty, meta­physics or com­par­a­tive reli­gions. The sys­tem is set up in a very sim­ple way, with­out going into too much detail. There is much more behind the idea, but the book con­veys the point while remain­ing acces­si­ble. Even though this arti­cle does not deal with spir­i­tu­al­i­ty, we need to under­stand the gen­er­al prin­ci­ples that have been intro­duced to actu­al­ly apply them. If you fol­low the pre­vi­ous three agree­ments, you will give the best of your­self. Strive to always do your best and make sure you con­tin­ue to do what­ev­er is nec­es­sary to suc­ceed. It‘s easy to take short­cuts, but most short­cuts that aren‘t fin­ished cost more in the end than they save. Ruiz defines an “agree­ment” as a code of under­stand­ing and com­mu­ni­ca­tion. For exam­ple, lan­guage is a chord.

Those who speak Eng­lish agree that the word “cat” refers to the small fur­ry mam­mal with a long tail and atti­tude. Just as we had no choice but to use the word “cat,” we don‘t have much choice in the oth­er agree­ments that have been passed on to us by our cul­ture or fam­i­ly. Engag­ing in these four agree­ments will be the hard­est thing we have ever done. As Ruiz warns: “Almost all of our per­son­al pow­er is invest­ed in respect­ing the agree­ments we have with our­selves. This is because our agree­ments are actu­al­ly like a strong addic­tion. We are addict­ed to being the same as we are. We are addict­ed to anger, jeal­ousy and self-pity” (110). But if we work hard, prac­tice reg­u­lar­ly, and con­stant­ly focus on love and for­give­ness, we will trans­form into our true self: pow­er­ful, lov­ing, free. I inter­pret­ed “is” as a life in the present moment and “was” rep­re­sent­ed past behav­iors. Change of tem­po­ral form prob­a­bly intentionally.

The best way to devel­op knowl­edge is to bypass oth­er assess­ments and read the mate­r­i­al and devel­op one‘s own knowl­edge. As I also replay top­ics in the ref­er­ence, I think we all receive some­thing dif­fer­ent from each book, based on com­plete­ly dif­fer­ent emo­tion­al reac­tions, based on obser­va­tions from a group that read all four chords at the same time. There were about fifty of them, and I rec­om­mend­ed to a broth­er and sis­ter who had child­hood trau­ma. He read the first chap­ters in tears, but he under­stood the heal­ing force itself. The first one only annoyed me, but I under­stood that he drew why we should not believe like that. Be blame­less with your word. Don‘t take any­thing per­son­al­ly. Don‘t make assumptions.

Always do your best. Dear light and truth. We can use the fourth chord, Do Your Best, to encour­age us to aspire pos­i­tive­ly. But this agree­ment also rec­og­nizes that “our best” varies from moment to moment, depend­ing on our cir­cum­stances and men­tal state. Recog­ni­tion of this fact leads to the real­iza­tion that every­thing we are doing right now is of our best, and this aware­ness can pre­vent us from flog­ging our­selves if we are not up to an unrea­son­able stan­dard of per­fec­tion. The four agree­ments aim to ensure that your agree­ments are not bro­ken because of you and that you are atten­tive to what you say and do. 

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